Anger Mismanagement

What makes you angry? It could be that little, petty pet-peeve or the one hot button that will encourage you to ruin everyone else's day. But more important, what do you do when you get angry? Aye, there's the rub (as the Bard of Avon mighta said.) See, anger is neither right nor wrong in itself; it is a feeling, like love or fear or happiness. And feelings have no judgement value. We are born with feelings, a God-given gift that like all other of God's gifts, depends on what we do with it.
See, if someone steps on my toe, and I say (calmly, of course), "Ouch, you big lummox, yer on my toe!" and they then apologetically get off my toe, no problem. On the other hand, if some steps on my toe, and I say, well the same thing as above, but I also pull out a weapon and remove the offending person that way, then there is a problem! As I said, it is not the feeling of anger that is the issue. Rather, it is what we do about it.
As a society, we don't know what to do with anger. Maybe it is because we have confused anger with rage and its attendant violence. Maybe it is because of our institutionalization of anger; the only people who are supposed to get angry are those authorized to do so, whether police officers or soldiers or politicians (whoops! not them, you say? then why do they...?) Maybe it is because we can't tell the difference between assertion and anger and in a world where more and more people are feeling powerless, anger becomes their way of dealing with that.
We shouldn't confuse the bully with the angry person. Bullies are usually very frightened people who have discovered how to get their way by frightening others. The loud, the abusive, the threatening are seldom angry, but rather good at covering up their own insecurity.
Nor should we conflate the violent with the angry.We hear of those who have been violent as "angry," in part an explanation, in part an excuse. The violent are those who cannot see any other alternative to their problems; when the tool you got is a hammer, all problems become nails.
And most of all, we should not diminish the impact of society: In some contexts, it seem to be in to be angry, angry at, well, everything. There is a sense here of the young child who does not get something, and in the tantrum that ensues, refuses any attempts to make things right (even refusing the exact thing that was wanted to begin with!) These people are angry because others are angry. They march and wave nonsensical signs and demand the impossible because this is what they think everyone else wants.
What makes you angry? In a world where people become angry because some else is driving on the same highway (road rage) or because their political point of view is disagreed with, the first step to handling your anger is to look at what makes you angry, and what you do about it. Don't blame the feeling. Look at the angry person.